33 Clear Reasons To Be a Stay at Home Mom
Looking for reasons to be a stay at home mom?
Trust me, it took me A LOT of thought, prayer, and important conversations with my family to decide this for myself.
You see, I always pictured myself being a teacher until I would retire, but it was about 2 1/2 years into my marriage that things just changed for me COMPLETELY.
I got totally set on being a stay at home mom by the time I’d have kids because I really wanted to be home with my babies and be there to raise them. I just didn’t want to miss out on this beautiful stage in life.
So if you’re anything like me, you’ve been religiously researching all about the pros, cons, benefits, and reasons to be a stay at home mom.
Here are my top reasons you’ll want to be a stay at home mom!
Why being a stay-at-home mom is important
Now hear me out- I know that being a stay at home mom is not for everyone, and there are benefits of being a working mom too. I am only speaking for myself, and you may not agree with my opinions and that’s okay 🙂
Again, believe me, I ALWAYS pictured myself as a working mom, even before I got married. However, being a stay at home mom can truly be one of the best decisions you’ll make in your life!
Being a stay at home mom helps create a strong foundation for your family. Your role is invaluable not only for your kids, but also for your marriage.
Below are some of my favorite reasons why being a stay at home mom is worth it!
Reasons to be a stay at home mom
1. You can truly establish a bond with your baby
The first few months are ESPECIALLY important for you and your newborn because it is during this time that you start creating that bond between the two of you postpartum.
The longer you are home with your baby, the more established your bond will be. It’ll be extremely difficult to start establishing this bond and then suddenly it be interrupted by you going back to work.
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2. Easier for breastfeeding!
If you’ve been down this road before, then you know how tough it can be to pump at work!
Well obviously a clear advantage of being a stay at home mom is that you can feed your baby however, whenever, and wherever you want.
Whether you choose to breastfeed or bottle feed your baby, you’ll definitely have more freedoms for doing this at home compared to the workspace.
3. Your job isn’t going anywhere!
It’s a simple fact. You can always go back to work later on. There will always be a place hiring.
Employees are replaceable. Your role at home is not.
4. You’ll never get this time back
The way I think of it is this: as much as I have always pictured myself working my entire life, this is the SOLE stage in my life where I would be having my kids. I want to be home and experience it then!
Your baby will grow up, and you won’t be able to go back in time to live this stage with them again.
5. You can save money (such as childcare)
Let’s state the obvious: childcare is expensive!
So many working couples hire a nanny or take their kids to childcare because they think they have no other choice.
Think of how much you would pay per month on childcare. Overtime, that amount can easily add up to hundreds, or thousands of dollars!
Being a stay at home mom can save you all that money. And if you further think about it, staying home can save you the money you’d spend on gas, car maintenance, wardrobe for your job, etc.
6. You won’t miss out on your kids’ milestones
One of the things that working parents often are hard on themselves for is missing out on important milestones of their kids.
Being a stay at home allows you to be there during your baby’s firsts whether it’s your baby’s first words, first crawl, or first steps.
7. You won’t feel guilty for this time
At the end of the day, you won’t feel guilty about being home with your child. You’ll know how much you’re needed and how invaluable this time really is.
8. You are your own boss
Calling yourself your own boss is liberating!
Not having to worry about work duties, meetings, evaluations, or getting fired can really put you at peace.
9. No work drama!
Hearing constant ranting or drama among colleagues can really tire you out. Heck, if you even find yourself getting frustrated with particular colleagues, then being a stay at home mom will save you from all this drama!
10. No dress code!
Whether you wear a suit, scrubs, dress clothes, or any other specific work attire, nothing beats wearing cozy clothes at home.
Picture it: wearing your most comfy sweatpants, hoody, fuzzy socks, and no bra. Yup, I’m sold.
11. You won’t experience maternal separation anxiety
A lot of mommies out there experience maternal separation anxiety as soon as they go back to work after having their baby.
I have a friend who was always a workaholic, and she never thought she’d be a stay at home mom. But as soon as she had her baby boy, she couldn’t stand being away from her baby in the 1 month she worked after having him.She simply fell in love with being a stay at home mom!
If you’re worrying about possibly having maternal separation anxiety or depression from going back to work after having your baby, then definitely consider being a stay at home mom.
12. Less stress for you
Trying to balance work and home life is extremely overwhelming and stressful after having kids.
Work keeps you busy and mentally exhausted enough, and having to come home to basically another full-time job raising your child will be even more stressful on you.
Being a stay at home mom will eliminate the stress that comes with trying to perform two jobs at once.
13. Less stress for your spouse
I’m not saying that you will do everything and your spouse will do nothing. It’s more that you both will have your unique role in your family and work as a team this way.
By you having this role as a stay at home mom, your husband will be more at peace knowing that you’re there for your baby and that there’s no childcare involved.
Your husband trusts you more than anyone else to raise your baby, so knowing that your baby will have you will tremendously reduce his stress.
14. More flexible schedule
Stay at home moms have SO much more flexibility with their schedule. They can literally do everything on their own time and can modify and adjust their schedules as needed for their babies.
This means flexibility with sleep schedules, feeding schedules, pumping schedules, cooking and cleaning schedules, the possibilities are endless.
15. It can build your confidence
It can be a touchy subject, but it’s common for moms to feel as though they’re not doing enough, or they feel like a bad mom, especially when they’re working while also trying to raise their kids.
Feeling this way can really take on toll on mom’s emotions and mental health. Being a SAHM can help build your confidence in being a mommy because you know the value of what you are doing for your kids.
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16. You can gain new friendships and support systems with other SAHMs
Finding a good support group is so beneficial, especially for new mommies.
You may have other mommy friends who are also SAHMs, you can join a Facebook group for stay at home moms, and you make new SAHM friends along way.
They will be some of the best circle of friends you could ask for, and you can lean on each other because you’re going through the same journey. And BONUS: you can do playdates together with your little ones!
17. More control over teaching fundamental values, traditions, and beliefs such as religion
You and your partner may have certain values, traditions, and beliefs that you will want to instill in your kids.
Being a stay at home mom will give you full control on how to teach those values, traditions, and beliefs to your children in their early years.
Passing down our religious beliefs and practices is so important for me and my husband, and I just can’t imagine how difficult it would be to do this if I was still working.
18. You’ll have 100% focus and attention for your family
Kids know when you’re not 100% all in. I don’t know about you, but this terrifies me.
In life we know we perform tasks better when we solely focus on one thing at a time, but we stubbornly are addicted to the idea of wanting to multitask everything.
Research has found that multitasking does more bad than good, and we end up being less productive!
Yes there’s A LOT of multitasking that naturally comes with raising a baby, but working a job is too much of a task to juggle with parenting. It’s almost impossible to devote yourself 100% to your baby this way.
19. You can make more time for your husband
When you and your husband are both working, it becomes hard already to make time for each other. Bringing a baby into the picture will make it even harder!
Some working parents work opposite shifts, so one parent works nights and the other works days. Or they work on different days as each other. I ask myself how they even get to spend quality time together?
You don’t want to become disconnected from your partner. Your relationship is the foundation for your family, and being a stay at home wife and mom can ensure you maintain that strong relationship with your spouse.
20. More time to do the homemaking
There’s just not enough hours in the day, and working moms find it so hard to fit cooking and cleaning into their daily schedules.
They might hire a housekeeper or they might spend too much money eating out. So not only are they struggling to maintain a clean home and feed their families, but they’re also spending that extra money!
SAHMs don’t have the same worries because they have more time in their hands to keep up with all the homemaking.
21. Better nutrition for your kids
As I mentioned before, SAHMs have more time to cook and clean in their homes. Because they are more able to provide home-cooked meals for their kids, this means better nutrition for them.
You would have more control over what your kids eat, and you can ensure that they are getting enough vitamins and nutrients.
22. Easier and more effective discipline management
Consistency is key for discipline, and if you’re not always there to monitor and manage your kids’ behavior, then this can throw your whole discipline management.
Kids need to learn at a young age what is and what is not acceptable behavior, and being home with them as much as possible during this time can really keep things consistent and make a difference.
23. Appointments are so much easier to schedule!
I remember when I taught elementary school it was a pain scheduling parent teacher conferences with working parents.
Apart from parent teacher conferences, scheduling doctors appointments can also be difficult to do for working parents.
24. You can take naps during the day!
I think we can all agree that naps are glorious, and as a SAHM, you can pretty much fit in a day nap while your little one is sleeping. How amazing is that?
25. It’s easier to schedule family vacations
Wouldn’t it be nice to easily plan a family vacation?
With only your hubby working, being able to plan a family vacation can be done way easier since you only have to worry about his schedule.
26. You can better maintain a strong relationship with your children
In the beginning, it’s crucial to be with your newborn to build that special bond. The longer you remain at home, the more you can ensure you continue to grow that bond to form a strong relationship with your child.
I don’t know about you, but I have friends and relatives who felt disconnected from their parents growing up because they didn’t spend enough time together. To this day, some of them continue to have that same type of relationship with their parents.
27. You can be more involved with your kids’ education, sports, and extracurricular activities
As your kids start attending school and are involved in sports and extracurricular activities, you’ll want to be there to support them.
As a stay at home mom, you can attend their school awards ceremonies, sports games, tournaments, science fairs, you can chaperone their field trips, you can attend PTO meetings, etc.
It’s also way easier to support your child with their education. You’ll have more time to help them with their homework, to communicate with their teachers, and you can stay on top of their grades a lot easier.
28. You can potentially homeschool your kids
Another way to support your child’s education as a stay at home mom is to homeschool your child!
If this is something you’d want for your child, then being a SAHM could definitely open the doors for homeschooling.
29. You can better monitor your kids’ technology usage
With all the craziness in the world today surrounding social media, it’s become more and more important to monitor what your child is viewing on their devices.
As working parents, you lose sight of how your child is using technology whether it’s with their phones, tablets, computers, social media accounts, and other online platforms.
30. It’s easier to plan your next pregnancy
By being a SAHM, you don’t have to stress about finding the “right time” to get pregnant because of work.
Teachers, for example, are pressured to plan their pregnancy around the school year.
Or what if you just started a job? Is it ideal to get pregnant right away before really establishing your position?
SAHMs can plan their pregnancy on their own terms and at their own timing without having outside pressures such as a job.
31. You won’t ever feel alone
No matter what, as a stay at home mom, you’ll always have your baby there with you and there’s nothing more fulfilling than that.
32. You’ll be happier
Being home with your child brings such love and joy, it’s simply indescribable. I doubt there’s another job out there that brings this same level of happiness.
33. Your kids will remember this time with you
Finally, not only will you remember this time with your kids, but ultimately they will remember you being there for them during these years.
In my years of public school teaching, I had students who opened up to me about how they didn’t see their parents enough growing up or that they see their grandparents more as their parents because that’s who they remember raising them.
I don’t want my kids to ever feel like I wasn’t there for them. I’d want them to remember the beautiful moments we spend together, memories they’ll always remember.
FAQs- Reasons to be a stay at home mom
- What are disadvantages of being a stay-at-home mom?
- Just as there are advantages of being a stay at home mom, there are of course disadvantages too.
- For one, many SAHMs can experience burnout for feeling so overwhelmed.
- Another really common disadvantage is the financial stress that may come with not bringing in that consistent income as you did before.
- Are there any government benefits for stay at home moms?
- It’ll depend on your husband’s income and other factors as well, but it can definitely be worth looking into!
- If you’re really worrying about finances, looking into things such as food stamps can be a good place to start.
- Can these also be reasons to stay home during COVID?
- Absolutely. Given the pandemic, so many families out there have chosen to transition to either remote jobs or being stay at home parents.